Monday, January 24, 2011

Big Girls Don't Cry...Usually

I cried at work on Friday.  Big, fat tears filled with frustration and embarrassment and fragility.  Luckily I held it together long enough for me to close my office door to sob in peace.

It's a complicated story, but suffice it to say that I "took one for the team"  and received a mighty dress-down for something that wasn't my responsibility.  Funny how when you take one for the team, you feel very much alone.

I was eating dinner with the children last night when they asked me if I had to go to work today.  I said yes.  And Ashley said "Awwww, I don't want you to go to work!"

And I said, "Well, neither do I actually."

So she asked, "Why not?"

I replied, "Well, I had a hard day on Friday.  A mean man made me cry."

Ashley looked aghast.  "What?!  He made you cry???"

"Yes," I said.

"What did he say to you?"

I wasn't sure what to say.  "Oh, just mean stuff."

Ashley nodded knowingly.  "Did he tell you that you weren't being a very good girl?"

I smiled and said, "Yup, that's about right."

She put her hand on my hand and said, "Mommy.  Next time someone does that to you, you should say 'Hey.  That's not a very nice thing to say.'" 

I said, "Okay, I will.  That's very good advice, honey."

She went back to her plate of pasta.  But then she thought of something else.

"Oh, and Mommy.  Maybe next time you shouldn't sit right next to him.  Have your friend sit in the spot next to him.  Or, you could sit in the spot behind him," she said with a firm nod of her head.

I nodded again.  "Thanks honey.  I'm sure that will help."

Wouldn't life be great if problems could be solved just like they are in preschool?  Add a nap, a cup of apple juice and a cookie and I'd be sailing smooth until retirement.



Kristen said...

Ugh. I feel for you. I hate when you have to "take one for the team" and no one even gives you the credit for it.

wonderchris said...

Stupid bad days!!! I'd say a nap, a cup of apple juice, and a cookie are essentials on a good day. You deserve a pizza party - or whatever a big celebration at preschool would be. I can't believe anybody could be mean to you!!!!
It is a new week and I hope it goes well for you!

Brandy@YDK said...

I've cried at work before. being a grown up can suck it.

Marcia (123 blog) said...

Hey, it's saying my comment was published but I didn't leave one yet???

Anyway, so sorry you had a hard day. I've worked at 4 companies and at each of the last three I had one seriously horrible crying episode. So much so I could write a blog post about each one, it's that vivid.

I do think Ashley's right and we could all learn some good manners from pre-school!

And... small mercy for you but at least you have an office - we are all open plan so I had to run to the bathroom to have a good cry!

Emily said...

Sorry Friday was so rough. Here's hoping that today is better. I'm so glad you've got such a wise daughter to guide you (and your readers!) through the minefields of adulthood. Sometimes stuff just makes more sense when viewed from knee-height.

PaisleyJade said...

So precious what she said - if only life was that simple in grown up land! Hope your next week is better.

Sippy Cup Mom said...

I'm so sorry you had a bad day! I hate taking one for the team, it's just not fair! I wish we could all take your daughter's advice!

MandyE (Twin Trials and Triumphs) said...

It's all relative, isn't it???

Sorry you had a tough day. I definitely had my share of those in the office. One time, my boss (who is a really nice guy, and actually a great friend) made me cry. I made it to my office, shut the door, and just sobbed. He came down a few minutes later, I think realizing he'd probably been too harsh. He knocked on the door and came in (without me saying anything). He saw me standing there, surrounded by 10 wadded up tissues with a bright red nose, still pouring snot. The look on his face was so shocked, all I could do was laugh! At least we both had a good laugh over it.

Sounds like he's different from the "mean man" at your office, though. I like Ashley's advice not to sit next to him. :)

Rochelle@AFamilyofLooneys said...

Sorry you had a crappy day at work. Hope this week is better.

Anonymous said...

So sorry :( I hope the team at least appreciates your sacrifice.

Your daughter's advice is awesome! Having such smart kids must cheer you up :)

1 Special Family said...

Hope today was better! Seems like Ashley got it right, though! LOL The kids always have the answers!

Steph said...

Oh man, sorry about the bad day Megan! Definitely been just want to say "but, but, but..." and all the frustration just makes it so hard to control your tears.

I think Ashley has it right though. At my work holiday dinner last year, I sat far far away from my manager, surrounded myself with my work pals and I had a great time (and made fun of him too since he was so far away from us).

Hope that this week is better and the mean guy at your work is a poo poo head.

BranderPaul said...

Poor girl :( I hope today was better.. if it wasn't, just let me know and I'll kick him :) I've got people!

Holly Ann said...

I've so been there too. And I was like 8 months pregnant the last time (which still kind of pisses me off - I could barely walk down the hall and my boss was giving me a hard time over petty little things. Wth??).

Anyhow, I really hope today was better for you. Sometimes I think the professional world wants to hold us to a nearly impossible standard of unemotional behavior.

Danae said...

Like everyone else, I hope today was better for you. It's funny though- my hubby and I were thinking about how it would be nice to be little again and have the hardest part of your day being that your hotdog fell out of your bun and when you cried about it, a grown up would come and fix your problem for you. :)

Katherine said...

I hate it when I cry at work. I would definitely take Ashley's advice and not sit next to that person.

Annette said...

Yes, I wish life was like pre-school. Wouldn't it be great to say to your boss, "You're being mean. I'm not going to sit with you at lunch anymore until you say you're sorry" or better yet, "I'm not going to work for you anymore until you say you're sorry." Please hang in there...I had one of those days at work not too long ago..definitely not fun!

Rebecca said...

That sucks...I hate crying at work. I hate crying period, but it happens. I love their suggestions though...they so love you!

Kmama said...

Ashley is a smart girl.

I'm sorry you had a rough day. The past few days have been rough for me too. Why can't we all just be independently wealthy??

sara said...

That's the sweetest advice ever. What a smarty-pants.

Sorry you had a sucky day. I have lots of those at work.

Dee said...

I'm so sorry! I know that work and the people that are there can really stress you out!

she has some great advice though! :)

MommaKiss said...

assclown jerks who yell at ya, well, they should go screw.
or sit further away.
you know ;)

JallieDaddy said...

Sounds like you have a very caring thoughtful daughter. The cynic in me says though that she may be planning to use that against you: be careful the next time you have to tell her off... :)

Sadia said...

Have you ever read Fulghum's book, "All I Really Need to Know I Learned in Kindergarten"?

What a sweetheart!