Thursday, April 15, 2010

Reflections of a Twin Mama

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When Scott and I first found out we were having identical twins, we were thrilled.  THRILLED.  Then a kill-joy maternal-fetal medicine specialist came in the ultrasound room and got us all freaked out about TTTS and down syndrome risks and neurological what-have-you's.  But for the 5 minutes we had before she came in, we were THRILLED. 

Because at that time, we didn't think about how there'd be twice as many diapers.  Or how the heck I was going to nurse two babies at once while wrangling an 18-month old, too.  Or how a good night's sleep would become a distant memory.

We were total newbies.  Newbies who thought that twins were just plain awesome

Now, I'm a seasoned twin mama.  I know all the issues and challenges that face parents raising twins, especially identical twins.  Issues like how do we help them grow as individuals.  Should we keep them in the same class at school or separate them.  And how do we give them each the individualized attention that they deserve.  As a member of the twin mama club, I'm supposed to understand and appreciate that raising twins is complicated.

But when I look at my two boys, barely three years old, as they head off to kick a soccer ball back and forth between them, entirely of their own volition, all I can think is...

Man, twins are just plain awesome.

26 comments:

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MandyE (Twin Trials and Triumphs) said...

Having two at the same age can be tough at times...they sometimes need the exact same thing at the exact same time, and it's just not physically possible to satisfy both of them. So in that way, yes, we have our hands full.

BUT there are so many times when I see the sweet interation between our girls and I am reminded of the joy of twins. It is special, and it is awesome. :)

Jen said...

I have to agree. Having triplets is scary but its also very awesome. Wouldn't change a thing. :)

bbcd mama said...

What's the verdict on the same classroom thing? :)

Adoption of Jane said...

Great pic!! Here from Friday Follow :)

Melanie said...

When I found out I was pregnant with tiwns, it freaked me out. Then I learned about all the extra issues with a twin pregnancy, and it freaked me out even more. I still think people that say 'I always wanted twins' have no idea what they are talking about. But I agree, having twins is awesome!

MollyinMinn said...

That they are. Awesome, indeed. Great perspective.

wonderchris said...

A&O are awesome! Love the love for the twins.

Have a fantastic weekend!

Robyn Jones said...

I don't think I could handle twins...my 18 month old and three year old almost feel like more then I can handle some days... :D Found you via Friday Follow! have a great weekend!

InspiredGifts.com said...

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MelissaAggie98 said...

Happy FF! Just stopping by to say hello!

kellemel said...

Well, being a twin myself, I have to agree: We are awesome. Adorable pic of the boys.

Kari @ p.s. love.love. said...

Great outlook! I love that you were excited to have twins and not worried about the duties it would incur! Enjoy those boys!

Maria said...

Hello from your latest FF'er!

I breathed a sigh of relief upon seeing one little bean on each of my ultrasounds, LOL. Hubby's cousin had twins. :-)

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criticalcrass said...

yep, twins are awesome. especially when one's trying to bite the other's face. good times. :]

Alyssa said...

I love your last line! Lucky lady to have awesome twin sons...and a spunky four year old daughter. She sounds alot like mine!

By the way, I'm glad you've chosen to comment. Looking forward to more!

Kim said...

HECK ya twins are awesome. So am I naive to still want twins?

Belle said...

I know you didn't do this last post just for me, but it feels like it. Thanks! It made me smile. :)

Megan said...

Thanks for the comments everybody!

bbcd mama: Oh gosh, you caught me. We still haven't completely decided. They'll start preschool next year and will be in the same class (since there's only one class for 3 year olds at their school), and then we'll go from there. My instinct leads me to want to keep them together, although that is quite contrary to most of what I've read and heard is the best thing to do. So I don't know...much to ponder!

Kim: Nope! Twins really are awesome! Well, once they turn three. Before then it's a toss-up. ;-)

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Helene said...

Such a sweet post!! I know that there are many more issues and challenges we face as parents with twins but yeah...when you just stop and watch them playing together, it makes everything else seem to less complicated, doesn't it?

mrs. b. said...

this was so sweet. we're pretty fortunate mamas, aren't we!? :)

tandis1 said...

I totally agree! DH and I frequently comment about how great it must be to live with your best friend 24/7. While that first year was tough, now that they're 3 they are so much fun to watch when they interact with each other! As for the schooling, I'm with you - my insticts tell me to keep them together for as long as possible.

Charity Donovan said...

I love my little copies...it's fun having an identical set within my quads. My docs spoke to us about "reducing" them due to TTTS...I can't imagine life without them. I'm reading an AMAZING book right now called "One & the Same." You may want to ck it out, if you haven't already. If you do/or have read it, let me know what you think! I would love to talk to another mother facing the SAME challenges this unique blessing brings to the table. charityd AT centurytel DOT net

Sebski said...

yes, they are quite awesome aren't they? ;o)

Tiffany said...

I have always wanted twins. It's crazy I'm sure.